Welcome to the forum Stag!
Like tcmatteson I only started soaping a couple of months ago, but I got addicted FAST and have made a LOT of soap in a relatively short amount of time. From the sounds of it, you will quickly become addicted too

I was pretty freaked about the lye at first as well, but honestly, after you make a couple of batches following the recommended safety procedures, it's not a big deal. Like anything else in life (or your kitchen) that has the potential to cause harm, you just exercise presence of mind and caution. I still get in my car every day despite the fact that it can be used very dangerously! And if you love chemistry then you'll have a natural respect for what chemicals can and can't do.
Definitely watch AM's video. Super helpful and takes a lot of the mystery out of using lye.
I read a lot before I started making soap and that also boosted my confidence. The Everything Soapmaking Book (Grosso) and The Natural Soap Book (Cavitch) are good ones to start with (though some of Cavitch's info is outdated it's still a very informative read and she definitely loves her chemistry!!).
If I could go back in time I would definitely:
=> Make my first tiny little 1lb batch in WAY smaller container. LOL. Trying to stick blend that shallow mixture without splattering was a little daunting! That first batch was about 33% olive oil and was not going to trace for a looooong time unless I took some power to it. LOL. Actually, I'd probably instead make a 2-3 lb batch which is easier to work with and could probably be mixed up in a very large Pyrex type of container.
=> Woulda never bothered trying to make milk soap in a loaf mold. Ugh! Partial gel haunts me in my dreams!
=> Woulda bought a decent (but small) mold right away. I got some AWESOME ones right now from a woodworker on Ebay with a biz called DesignCraft. They're loaf molds with lids and I love, love, love them.
=> Woulda bought a silicone muffin mold for my extra soap so I had something to create nice small sample soaps with when there's leftover raw soap to pour.
=> Woulda tried to understand EO proportions better ... um, too much soap that has one EO overpowering all the others!
There are probably a zillion more things. But those are the ones that come to mind.
Welcome to the addiction. It's definitely worth convincing your mom for ...
Karri