Hi Celeste and welcome to the forum. I thought I'd give a try answering your questions. I actually had to read your thread twice to make sure I read the last couple of sentences correctly.
First I'll answer your technical questions then I'll answer your philosophical one: So please, try to keep up. No, there’s nothing wrong with your soap that didn’t gel. If you followed correct methods and a tried/true recipe, it should be fine. If you go to the BrambleBerry website you will find instructions on how to mix in your colorants. As a general rule of thumb, fragrances go in at trace just before you pour. Read the description of the fragrances also and note that some notate that they may accelerate trace. Many soaps don't gel. I gel all of my soaps but that's just a personal preference.
Now, you want to know what kind of "man" makes soap? I’ll tell you cupcake. An Italian man who left a career as a professional football linebacker to concentrate on running a nationwide company he owns. A man who married his best friend. And his best friend happens to be a strikingly beautiful Russian lingerie supermodel. She even owns her own fashion line (beauty and brains). A man who is highly educated yet knows his way around a genetics laboratory, the deep forest, a kitchen, and a toolbox. A man who is just as comfortable clinging to the side of a mountain as he is on the dance floor. I'll bet he even owns power tools and knows how to use them. A man who fluently speaks 4 languages. And if you could find a skirt that would fit a 6'5" and 240 pound "man;" I would bet that nobody in the room would dare to laugh at him wearing one. So, to answer your question sweetpea, I'm the kind of European man who enjoys making soap. I'm not offended but I do want to set the record straight that this isn't a "ladies-only" forum. Please think before you choose to insult someone of the opposite gender next time.
Oh…..and Celeste, incidentally, it’s "my good friend and
I" not "my friend and
me" and the word "
European" is always capitalized.