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Heather, I know we haven't posted a bunch together (small soap forum humor) as I stopped soaping for awhile before you joined but I wanted to say that my heart goes out to you. I was also faced with a very very similar situation as you with my Big Daddy. Big Daddy is my Dad's dad and my idol. He was my only Grandfather as my mom's dad died when I was 8. About 6 years ago, Big Daddy was 96 and was also diagnosed with throat cancer. His health had faded due to age but otherwise was in good health. Then he was diagnosed. He opted not to go with chemo or surgery due to his age. His doctors were some of the best here in Dallas and told him the risks due to his age. He chose to stick it out as long as he could. It broke my heart. I lived over an hour away and was not able to be there for him all the time like I would have loved to do but being I had 2 small children at the time, it just wasn't feasible. He ended up in the hospital and basically on his death bed. My husband and the kids and I made the drive when my parents told me and I got to see him. I still want to cry when I think of the last conversation my Big Daddy and I had. I loved him so much and he played a vital role in who I am today. I am no where near as perfect as he was but I certainly strive to be the best person I can every day because of him and the lessons he taught me. Anyway, I got to see him that evening and we talked about memories and how much we loved each other. He lasted 2 weeks in the hospital before I came to see him, the next day after our visit, he passed. It was horrible but I knew that he was where he needed to be. I may not believe in God and heaven (I'm wiccan) but I know that my Big Daddy is in heaven with his God and he is at peace. Knowing that, makes it easier to deal with the fact that I don't have him here on earth with me anymore. I do sincerely hope that your grandfather can have the surgery and make a recovery and he will be in your life for many more years. I truly do. Just make sure to spend as much time and love and make as many memories with him as you can. It is so important. I don't want to say Good luck to you and your grandfather but I just don't have any other words. I will keep you and your grandfather in my thoughts and I wish you all the best.
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Haven
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